There is this saying, “A widow is the only woman who knows where her man is every night – he is in his grave”
Is infidelity solely defined by intimate acts with someone outside of marriage? Or does it also encompass the deception and lies that precede and accompany such actions? Is it not a form of infidelity to enter into a marriage with the full knowledge that you are untruthful and unfaithful? Deceiving your partner is a profound betrayal, isn’t it? Why hide behind falsehoods instead of being honest and transparent?
What secrets are you concealing? It’s no wonder the rate of failed marriages skyrocket when people enter into them for the wrong reasons. The foundation of marriage is built on trust, honesty, and commitment. When these essential elements are lacking, the institution of marriage crumbles, and the consequences are devastating.
The negligence of men has driven many women to infidelity. Some men are so engrossed in their phones, constantly scrolling through the Obasanjo internet, ogling at other women with borrowed clothes, and ignoring the beauty right in front of them. It’s no wonder some women seek validation and attention outside their relationships.
While infidelity is not justifiable, as it’s frowned upon by both faiths and culture, men must acknowledge their role in perpetuating this issue. In the past, infidelity was rare, and if a husband was seen with another woman, it meant he was likely taking an additional wife. Today, men hide behind the guise of “friends” and “colleagues” to cheat.
Women are not exempt, and the rise of DNA testing has only added to the chaos. To strengthen the institution of marriage, men must take responsibility for their actions and prioritize their relationships at home.
By showing appreciation, taking their partners on dates that they take those cheap nothings to,buying them thoughtful gifts that they buy for the girls outside that are not appreciative, surprising them with small gestures, men can rekindle the love and respect that’s missing in many marriages. Only then can we hope to revitalize the marriage institution and make it something to be cherished once again.
To be continued…
- Kabara, is a writer and public commentator. Her syndicated column, Voice, appears on News Point Nigeria newspaper on Mondays. She can be reached on hafceekay01@gmail.com.
